He has moved toward you in your sin and sorrow, and when you offer your presence to others, you proclaim something better than what the world has to offer.

Drawing on her own experience of the loss of two children as well as responses from people who participated in her survey about grief, Guthrie pulls back the curtain and helps readers think about how they can show love and support to someone who is mourning.

While grief is different for a pastor in certain respects, ultimately, congregations can love their pastors through times of loss with simple words — “I am sorry for your loss. I am praying for you. I care.”

“I would watch people show up for Kara and do these amazing things, and I would think, I never would have thought of that, but look at how that person knew that that was something only they could do.”