"Sunday Best" Is a Matter of Motive

A first-time church visitor turned to his wife and whispered, “They must have a rule here against ironing your shirt.” His wife, having also scanned the congregation, replied, “Or combing your hair.”

The way people dress at church is noticed, and according to 85 percent of the respondents to a recent byFaithonline.com survey, it matters. And it is, respondents overwhelmingly believed, a subject that needs to be discussed in our churches.

According to the survey, there is nearly universal agreement that church dress has become more casual, but that’s where the agreement ends. When asked if “becoming more casual is a healthy trend,” respondents were split: 47 percent believing casual is better, 53 percent thinking it is not.

When responses were analyzed by age, we found a few of the expected differences, but they were not as dramatic as one might think. Among those in their 20s and 30s, 58 percent believe casual is better, while 42 percent see “more casual” as negative. “I'm mixed on this,” one younger respondent told us. “There are good reasons to be more casual and there are good reasons not to be. There are contexts where this is a healthy trend and other contexts where it is not.”

While this kind of ambivalence was widespread, there were plenty of other respondents who saw things more clearly. A common sentiment from those who appreciate the casual trend is reflected in the statement: “It allows for a more realistic visual—that you don't have to clean up before approaching God. Churches that ‘dress to the nines’ are intimidating and make me … not want anything to do with a clean and squeaky God [who] doesn't have patience for messiness or messy people.”

At the same time, several younger respondents agreed that “there's a place for flip-flops and shorts, but not at most worship services. … Dressing up a bit for worship encourages people to take worship seriously, and therefore to take God more seriously and reverently.”

It’s the Attitude that Matters

Among those in their 50s and 60s, nearly 57 percent believe “more casual” is negative. It is, for many of them, not a matter of clothes per se, but of the heart behind the wardrobe. As one respondent told us, “The whole Western world seems to be going more casual in dress and attitude towards others. … Christians need to understand that our highest calling is to honor God. I believe our dress communicates a lot about our attitude.” Another typical reply from the “casual is negative” camp was, “I am not concerned about the casual dress as much as the attitude behind it. Dress seems to be an example of greater concern for personal comfort than the attention and focus that worship requires. So [casual] dress can be a symptom of growing self-absorption in worship.”

Many respondents—young and old—see a connection between informal dress and a hospitable environment. Casualness is appropriate, they believe, if it makes visitors feel welcome. But several added a caution, pointing out that “more casual” had a tendency to drift toward “careless.” As one respondent explained, “The positive point is that visitors of all kinds would feel welcome, no matter how they're dressed. [But] there is a difference between casual—which is fine—and messy, which seems disrespectful.”

There Should Always Be Intention

Nearly all respondents, regardless of where they fall on the casual-formal spectrum, believe that dress should be a conscious decision. As one respondent declared, “We should be thoughtful about all of the ways we approach God, and the message we send to our fellow believers when we choose what to wear.” Another added, “Everything we do in preparation for worship, and in worship itself, should have one motive—the glory of God.”

But there is a division in opinion as to what honors God. There are, among those who took the survey, differences as to who the immediate audience is (nearly everyone agrees that God is the ultimate audience). And there are different perspectives as to what constitutes reverence—and even worship.

One twenty-something observed, “The most important preparation should be [of] our hearts.” A forty-something believed that there should be intention and appropriateness in all that Christians do. “There is appropriateness in attire for work, for weddings, for funerals,” he said. “There should be some sense of appropriateness to enter God's presence with His people on this special occasion.”

A number of survey-takers expressed thoughts on appropriateness. One said, “When we come before the living God, it should not be with our everyday attitude….” Another replied, “As Christians, the way we dress for anything is important. We are ambassadors for Christ and therefore our appearance is part of how we represent our Lord.” A third participant returned to the importance of preparing our hearts, saying, “God cares far more about how we prepare our hearts for worship than He cares about how we prepare our clothes.”

One surprise finding concerned the lack of biblical modesty in church attire. “Modesty is a forgotten virtue in many churches,” one said, “especially in the warmer months.” Another comment that was typical of many was this one: “Girls should not intentionally dress provocatively; we should not dress in a way that is distracting or immodest.”

For Further Conversation

One respondent suggested that we dress in order to set ourselves apart from the culture. According to this participant, “Today's church is trying to be relevant to the culture. In the process, [it] grows more like the culture.” Rather than the church transforming the world, this respondent sees the culture transforming the church. “When people step into the sanctuary of the assembled people of God,” he said, “they should sense a marked difference from the world.”

Survey Results:

Is the way we dress important?

Yes – 85%
No – 15%

Is more casual dress a healthy trend?

Yes – 46.6%
No – 53.4%

Is more casual dress a healthy trend? (20-39 year-old respondents)

Yes – 58.4%
No – 41.6%

Is more casual dress a healthy trend? (40-49 year-old respondents)

Yes – 52.2%
No – 47.8%

Is more casual dress a healthy trend? (50-59 year-old respondents)

Yes – 43.5%
No – 56.6%

Is more casual dress a healthy trend? (60+ year-old respondents)

Yes – 32.4%
No – 67.6%

Comments


Don Codling


Bedford NS


Undoubtedly we all have our own preferences. I certainly do. But making this an issue is an unbiblical addition to God's law. De 12:32 "Whatever I command you, be careful to observe it; you shall not add to it nor take away from it. Nothing in the Bible prescribes formal or informal dress; it only speaks of issues such as modesty and recognition of gender differences. Dress according to your own preferences. But please don't make an issue with those who prefer more or less casual, or who don't even think about those issues but only come with interest and joy to worship God.

2008-03-27 14:49 Permalink Reply


Miriam


Coastal South Carolina


I don't mind anyone dressing "casual" for church, but when you look bad enough that you are a distraction for me, then you're getting on my nerves! I love a good worn out pair of Levi's, but I don't wear them to work or to church. Even though my boss has no dress code for the office, I choose to dress neatly enough that I look like I know what I'm doing. How can I expect customers to buy our services if I look like I spent the winter wadded up in the back of the closet? I can't help but think the same thing on Sunday morning. It helps me get in the right frame of mind for worship and learning once I'm clean and dressed good enough. This reminds me of a cousin who chose to go to school barefooted day after day. (This was a decade or two ago) Finally, his teacher had the class take up an offering to buy him a pair of shoes. The boy had shoes, he just didn't have a Mama mean enough to make him wear them! We shouldn't look pitiful on Sunday morning on purpose, either!

2008-03-30 16:16 Permalink Reply


Matt Brown


Covenant College (Lookout Mountain, GA)


While I believe that the survey addresses a number of good issues (modesty, casual dress a symptom of over-accomodation), I think there is a huge hole - what about economic distinctions? My church back home in the past two years has started holding a third service with the intention of reaching out to those in our community that might not feel comfortable in a sanctuary surrounded by suit-bedecked worshippers. I'm not talking about the young hipsters. I'm referring to lower income families and single moms, and unmarried couples with children on the way. These are people that I might never rub shuolders with and would shy away from if I saw them on the street. Especially for churches in more urban settings, I believe that the push should be for pulling these people into the body of Christ. Too often, I believe, the standard of dress is rooted in classic American understandings of what is socially acceptable - not the Gospel. I think it's great to dress up wear nice clothes, but I think that we lose sight of the important things the moment it amounts to social pressure or is addressed as a problem.

2008-04-08 00:09 Permalink Reply


Dave Sarafolean


Midland, Michigan


I really think that this is more than a matter of preference.

One of the members of our church has sat in the US Supreme Court a number of times as various cases were being heard. He tells of the formality in the courtroom: there is no visiting or talking, cell phones and Blackberries are turned off, etc. When the justices enter everyone rises out of respect. A declaration is made (May God save this court and may God save the United States of America), the justices are seated as are the people in attendance, and the court begins its business. Of course, what one wears when visiting or standing before the highest court of the land says volumes about one's respect for that institution.

My friend raises this question, "If such formality and reverence is normal for an earthly court why do we think otherwise when we stand before the King of Kings and Lord of Lords?"

2008-04-08 10:28 Permalink Reply


hsl


Minnesota


Even though the respondents so far have had quite diverse opinions on the specific clothing they'd prefer to see worn, it seems we all have a common thread: there should be some kind of awareness that coming together for worship is something special, something worth putting on clean clothes that are not the worst of our wardrobe. Would we do something special with our hair if we were meeting someone for coffee? Then we can at least do as much when we come into worship. But sometimes the "Sunday best" dress has become a way to show off our appearance before others, so maybe a clean, not wrinkled polo shirt and jeans could be the most appropriate dress for wearing to church.

Yes, there is a reverence we should feel when we come into worship, but that should be more in our attitude (no cell phones or side conversations distracting us) than in our attire.

2008-04-11 16:37 Permalink Reply


Bill T.


St. Louis, MO


Are we not a tradition that affirms the Regulative Principle in worship? Isn't expecting people to dress in a particular manner a betrayal of that principle? As long as a worshiper's clothing is modest, how can we impose upon them rules, regulations, and burdens not prescribed by Scripture? We construct a wall between the poor and God with our expensive clothing.

2008-04-12 16:30 Permalink Reply


JP Harvey


Navarre, FL


The issue of dress is so large, it's often reduced to insufficient simplicity--dressing one way is right or wrong, better or worse, etc. As I approach the issue from various directions, my position seems to adjust, or in a few cases, even change. In the end though, this has to be more about the attitude of the heart than any other single factor. That attitude will ultimately encompass the broader set of issues and motives. The foundational question for me is whether or no this is an issue that falls into the "essential" category. I don't believe it is, and so it falls into a larger lane requiring the practice (and enjoyment) of Christian liberty. Shepherds in Scripture were told to feed the sheep. They cared for the sheep and presumably would have bathed them when necessary, perhaps especially if the shepherd knew the master was going to see the flock. But he may not have. Scripture seems silent on this, so we just don't know. The comparison can only go so far, but this I know: the Master loves His sheep, because they're sheep, regardless of beautiful or matted wooly coats. He will work us toward a state where we are without spot and blemish. Along the way (pun intended), our outside should always genuinely reflect our inside, or else we become whitewashed tombs full of dead men's bones. The opposite is equally bad though. If each of us exercises liberty and genuine Christian love while striving to care for one another according to Scripture, I believe we'll enjoy and benefit from being part of an incredibly diverse and wondrous body--the body He has called out and called His own.

2008-04-13 08:00 Permalink Reply


jennifer groene


lawrence, Ks


I wonder how James 2 fits in with this issue. It seems to me that James is directly relating how one dresses to the showing of favoritism. Then he directly links it to judgementalism with evil thoughts. We are probably very capable of getting to this point by even having an article in the magazine that creates an issue over the way a "man comes into our meeting wearing shabby clothes."Are you adding to the scriptures and contributing to division within the body of believers that scripture does not allow? Why?

2008-04-13 19:08 Permalink Reply


Karen


Philadelphia 'burbs


I have not worn a skirt or dress to church in over a year, except for Christmas Eve. This is because we teach the two and three year old sunday school class, which is conducted completely on the floor of a multi-purpose room in the firehall we rent for our Sunday morning worship. If in a skirt and heels I have to worry about sitting and moving modestly when jumping up to yell "where?" with the kids in response to "I've got the Joy Joy Joy Joy ...." I can also easily sit on the floor with them to teach the lesson, help with coloring, etc.


I'm normally in a pair of khakis and a casual skirt. I don't find that it changes how I worship, but it does allow me to better serve the littlest attendees.

2008-04-17 13:05 Permalink Reply


Courtney


St. Louis, MO


One way I have grown in the faith is in my understanding of loving others. In scripture, Christ loved many in society that we would often shun. I am making that case that in our sinfulness we often judge the hearts of others based on their outward appearance. I would be curious to see if Christ would turn away the seeker curious about the gospel or the glorifying worship of a son or daughter based on whether they were wearing a suit/dress/jeans/etc. to worship.

2008-04-24 22:13 Permalink Reply


M. R. Fisher


NJ


Reading the article and comments, I noticed one idea that is missing: symbolism. The worship service has tremendous symbolism about it. It points to a world history that is coming to an end in a climax of corporate worship. Wearing our "better" clothes is symbolic of the glorified bodies we will have in that moment. In other words, our dress before Jesus in the new heavens and new earth will be glorious. I find dressing a little more formally, a good act of symbol-participation. This isn't the place to go into detail, but I think if you think thru this idea it makes more and more sense.

2008-05-16 20:12 Permalink Reply


JB


PA


I am amazed at the self-centered and pompous attitudes of some here. God couldn't care less about what we wear to worship. He looks at our hearts and the Character of Christ that He has implanted and is revealing within each believer. He is overjoyed when He sees His Son -- not the suit and tie or the latest dress you might be wearing. People might be looking, but God certainly isn't. Yes, He's looking at the attitude of the heart and the judgmental attitudes certainly get His attention. But thankfully, Jesus is at His Right Hand saying, "Yes, Father, I died for that judgmental attitude." I often chuckle to myself when I come across believers all caught up in this discussion when I think about Jesus and His disciples. Do you really think Jesus had a whole additional wardrobe for "goin' to worship"? No, He wore what He had (& that He every other day of the week) because it really didn't matter when He was totally giving Himself in worship to His Awesome Daddy in Heaven. I'm looking forward to the day when we all get to heaven and find that none of this silly, extraneous discussion will amount to a hill of beans, and we all find out what it was REALLY all about.

2008-06-12 23:40 Permalink Reply


courtney


Virginia


I wonder how we would dress if we were told that we had been invited to the President's office and he wanted to talk to us. Hmm, How many of us would forget to iron that shirt? Wouldn't we, honestly, wear our very best clothes? Wouldn't we brush our hair--iron our shirt?
How would we present ourselves if we were told the Creator of the Universe wanted to meet with us?
Of course, let me now refute my point and say-- who dresses up to pray in the morning?

2008-07-16 23:08 Permalink Reply

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